Evolution XXVI

What controls our life?

What controls our life is the meaning that we associate to a given situation. The meaning you associate will determine your behavior. 

If we want to change our lives we must change our neuro-associations. We need to change our condition response to our environment. All our neuro-associations are controlling and directing your life. What they direct and control is your motivation level what you willing to do or not do. Every single action you take as little it may seem has an effect in your life. By making some simple changes in what we link to things we can change our behavior. Your destiny is based in your daily behavior. 

What are some things in your life that you just change the meaning you had to this things it will literally changes your destiny? It means changes the way how you feel, the kind of results you got in your life everyday, the direction you are heading and ultimate your destination. 

Our neuro-associations drive us even when they don't have any sense, for example can you get somebody to do something that is destructive, just by get their brain to link up that is gonna be pleasurable?

Classic example world war 2, the Japanese develop this group of people called "KAMIKAZE" pilots people that kill themselves, how they pull that of? Real simple they got them to associate dying something that will be very painful to be ultimate pleasure why? Because it will honor your family, it will honor your country and plus you will go to a place that is much better then here where is ultimate pleasure. 

We can train people to do anything. We need to be very careful about the neuro-associations we create because a lot of them in our life are negative. That means that we link things up that don't relate and controls our lives. 

How we create neuro-associations? You are always creating associations in your mind. You are always anchoring things in your mind. For example when you ear a song that remembers someone you had a relationship with. That is called anchor that is a neuro-association.  

That is how our brain works. Those associations are happening all the time and sometimes they totally disempowering us and sometimes they are nothing to do with reality. A lot of times in life we link up things, the reason I didn't succeed is because of this, this happened in my life because of this. A lot of our neuro-associations have no basis in reality, they feel real to us, but they are totally disempowering because they have nothing to do with actually went on. 

If you want to change the direction of your life, your ultimate destiny, and how you feel now, you need to change these neuro-associations. 

What will be the ultimate neuro-associations that you need in order to create the destiny you really want, what will be your associations that you will create or link to things like learning, growing, giving, money, relationships and power?

What are some of the negative neuro-associations that maybe are holding you back and what are some of the ones that will empower what you need?

Be aware of them, write down them and evaluate what is serving you. Just by identify them and if you want to eliminate them just if you link enough pain to keeping them and pleasure to change them, your brain will find a way, will complete the process.

As always, your friend.

-JM

Evolution XXV

How to attract a woman or a man?

What is the controlling force in your life?

What makes you to do what you do? 

The controlling force in all human behavior, what drive us are 2 forces: 1) The need to avoid pain.   2) The desire to gain pleasure.

This twin forces are the drive behind all human behavior. 

Everything we do in life we do out our need to avoid pain or desire to gain pleasure. The need to avoid pain is biological it is built in your nervous system, why? Because it is a survival mechanism and your brain will fight like crazy anytime it sees you are asking to do something that gonna lead to pain. So we need to learn how to change what we link pain and what we link pleasure to. How? For example, what if you saw somebody that you are really attracted to and you want to be with her or with him, you want to develop a relationship but you didn't follow through. How it is possible? Because you associated more pain to walking up and ask her or him for a date then not doing it. Your thoughts are if I can do it I can have the pleasure but which one was the more powerful motivator force? The pleasure of being in a relationship or the potential pain of being rejected? If you didn't follow thought you already know the answer don't you? The pain. In general people do almost everything to avoid pain. 

Now a curious question: What happens when 2 pains come up side by side? What happens when if you do something it's gonna be painful and if you don't do it it's gonna be also painful. Which action would you take? For example you can say: If I don't go to this lady and meet her then I will never meet her again, I will never have a relationship I will miss her and you will have the pain of that. But also your brain it will say to you: But if you go to her and she reject you then you really will have pain. So what determines your behavior is which pain is more intense. 

Let see another example. All people in general want to be in a relationship. Why? Because people think that being in a relationship mean lots of what? Pleasure, love, happiness, security, being close, all those special feelings. Then they get in a relation and they say I don't want to be in a relationship because they now start to think that be in a relation means pain or worst they think a relationship is this incredible thing in the world, they love this person, gave 1000% of themselves, they think about him or her constantly and then as times goes by and something happens and this person let say leaves them, lost interest, or breaks up with her or him, or broke his or her heart in a million pieces. 

This already happened to you? If not don't worry probably it will. Well I'm not being so supportive now but in our life time we gonna have relationships that people are not so committed as we are so there is a chance of this happens. What happens now for some people they have what we call pain at this moment. So what they link in their mind is relationships = pain. Now there is a big problem because also in their mind they have also this association in their nervous system, that association that relationships = pleasure. So what happens in the future? Well for a long time this person will avoid relationships, they don't gonna be too attracted, they express themselves rarely, or they will be more closed. With time some of the pain goes off, then they see someone that they get attracted and they develop a relationship and as the relation starts to grow, there is a point in the relation when it goes really really well then immediately that person starts to sabotage the relationship. This already happened to you? Because inside your mind something happened like I'm having all this pleasure but I know what is going to happen next, relationships = pain, eventually so it's better get out now before the pain gets here.

So the controlling force of our life, what drives our life is what we link to pain and what we link pleasure to.

Pain and pleasure are the biggest motivators and of the 2, you will do more to avoid pain usually then ever you will to gain pleasure.     

So how can we use this understanding of the controlling force, how can we use the understanding that pain is a great motivator then even pleasure? One way to use it, it is to begin to understand that any moment and time our reality it's based on whatever we focus on. That any moment and time what you focus on it is the most real to you. All you got to do is to control your mental focus. So if you want to change your behavior you must focus on how not doing something is gonna be more painful then just going for. Another words link not taking action is more painful then just doing it. Do it to yourself upfront don't wait to life put you in a pressure situation that you feel that you have to do something. 

Use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. You do that and you are in control of your life. You don't do that and life controls you. Unfortunately for most people life controls them. If there is anything you want to do and you can't figure out why you are not doing it, so there is just a simple answer, you link more pain to doing it to not doing it. You got to right now decide that you control the focus of your mind. You are in control and you have the ability to change your focus and then change your behavior instantly by learning to control pain and pleasure and what you link to. 

So how to attract a woman or a man? To be brutally honest with you I don't have the perfect answer for that question and it was not my original ideia when I decide this subject for this post to give you a bullet proof plan to how you can accomplish that but I just wanted to share with you how we work, what is happening inside our head when we are living our lives. 

But there is a few personal tips about the theme I want to share with you now, think of yourself like you are working in a restaurant serving your customers. When it's almost in the end of the meal of your customer and you ask him or her: Do you want a dessert? ( LOL what a comparison I'm giving to you now) The customer replies: No, I don't want. Do you think and feel rejected or offended? Of course no, you just continue your work, your life and you go to the next table and ask the same right? So why should you be offended or feel rejected when someone says to you no when it is about relationships? 

Another tip that I think can help you it is, as human beings we are wired  to accept something when someone want to give to us, so one of the ways to ask for example someone to have dinner could be: If I ... would you ...? If I invite you to have dinner would you accept my invitation? If I invite you to go to the cinema would you come with me? 

Even if the answer is no, remember another great word, don't forget we live in a big world that now because of technology became smaller and we can reach people in just a few seconds all over the world and a great word to remember after receiving a no is: NEXT. Simple isn't? Next, next person you will know, so say less to more people. You must understand about what we discuss above that some people they are not in a position of being open to a new relationship, so try to keep in touch from times to times if you really want that person in your life, let that person know that she or he is important to you, let her or she knows that to you, to be with that person is very important to you, so when it will be important for her or she be with you she or he can give you a call. And what it is interesting is that this is true for any scenario in life.

So what did you like the most about this post I invite you to below you can comment, write some questions, some insults, some compliments, something and if you think you need to share this post with someone go ahead.

As always, your friend.

-JM

       

    

Evolution XI

Give life to your idea of being totally free!

You're not poor because you don't have money, you're poor if you don't have goals and a dream!

My definition of being free or have freedom isn't just going for the money and having material things but I'm not just focus even in being in the middle of the nature, and meditation, etc.

Is the combination of the two, being free is what brings joy and happiness to your life.

Also is what brings value to your life, the all picture of freedom is the money and material things, the health and wellness, powerful relationships, being happy, is the full-pack/include all of those things.

Why you should and how you can create goals?

It's very important goal setting, because when you have a goal there is a center in your brain working to achieve that goal, it's scientifically proven, that shows the veracity of this.

A lot of research was made in the 60s about how the human brain works and what they saw when you actually have a goal there is a center in your brain that works toward achieving that.

So make sure you have dreams, you have goals, this vision of you want to do, have or become. 

Children are very good in this when they are young, but adults are very good in killing this and we need to reverse this process. We got to nurture the dreams, because you have the right to decide how you want to live, to be free and choose your destiny.

But you can think this: how can I achieve my goals or my dream?

   

You don’t have to know how to do it. You just have to know two things—where you’re going and that you will get there.

You can also do two things: create an image of you living already your perfect life in your mind and the dialogue to support that image.

You’ve got to see yourself in the clothes you want to wear, having those cars, having that house, etc. Picture those things about you want to do, have or become. Build a clear image of you looking awesome and feeling fantastic.

You also must develop a new way of speaking to yourself and others. Otherwise, you will sabotage yourself with negative self-image dialogue.

Focus on what you want.

Write a description of your new life on a card— the look you want to be, the cars and house you want to have, the people you want in your life, and how you’ll look and feel. 

Read your card and affirmations several times a day. See yourself as already being looking, feeling and behaving in that new life. Get emotionally involved with these ideas.

Do these things and you will transform your life. Not by forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to do, but by building a new model in your marvelous mind.

This might seem overly simplistic, but the body is the instrument of the mind. When we build an image in our mind, our body HAS to express it. The transformation happens by law.

But for that could happen you need to be focused on that all days!

Focus each day on what you want to accomplish for the day, put the blinders on, if you find yourself distracted here or there in something isn't moving you close to you goals, stop it and focus specifically on the task that you need to accomplish for that day. Write down 1, 2, or 3 things each day that you want to get accomplish, and absolutely focus in order to be able make it happen.  

Give life to your idea of being that free person. I promise it will take on a power of its own.

So like always just Do life and have an amazing week.

- JM

Evolution X

YOU WERE MEANT TO LIVE A LIFE OF FREEDOM!

YOUR LIFE IS CREATED BY WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT ALL DAY!

You see all over the world there is people doing things they don't want to do and is giving them results they don't want to get and they do anyway. 

I want that your head represents your mind. First of all no one ever seen the mind. Mind is activity is not a thing. Your brain is not your mind. Brain is a electronic switching station that alters the vibration you're in and the vibration indicates what you attract. 

If you divide the top half of your head in the conscious mind and the bottom half represents the subconscious mind you will understand that the conscious mind is where school focus on, that is where we gather all the information loaded with books and the subconscious mind is where are the paradigms.

Your paradigms controls your vibration, controls what you attract and also controls what you do. It literally controls your behavior. If you look outside your results, your results are nothing but manifestation of your paradigms. And when you go and change your paradigms because it is something you must do if you want to change your results.  

But probably you are wondering what are paradigms?

Well paradigms are a multitude of habits. Are ideas that are fixed in your subconscious mind and all brought together are called paradigms. So paradigms are like a sub-electronic mechanism control system in your subconscious mind.   

What is this process that we see the world through? We see through a window and if it is open then we have freedom. 

Think about when you were a baby. You didn't have fear of speaking in front of people and didn't have afraid of failure. You try walk, you try touch in fire and get burned.

You grew up and then in the 30s you learn to be realistic. To set goals so you can achieve and don't fail or be disappointed. Now your window get closed. If you read TRANS4MATION it's up to you!

well your window expand and get bigger, starts to open again longer as you get older. Why? Because helps to you press the mute on the negative if you stay in this path of expanding your window that you use to you see the world.

Why this is so important?

Because your life is created by what you think about all day. For example if you think positive and success you create opportunities.

To you change anything outside you must first have to change the inside.

If you sow a thought you create a action and if you sow a action you create a habit and if you sow a habit you create character and if sow character you create your destiny.

Your mindsets are not created in a day but in a month cycle.

You create a better life by creating a better self-image.

If you REALLY believe you can achieve something and you act on it, YOU WILL.

Have a great week and just Do life!

- JM with friendship.

Evolution V

How to feed well your body and mind?

You are a spiritual being living in a physical body

     

       The essence of you and I is spiritual. You are a spiritual being living in a physical body, you don't have a soul but you are a living soul. You got to take care of yourself, your physical body do not neglect yourself, the Holy Scriptures says to nourishes and cherishes your body. Why I think it's a good advice? Because your body it's the only place you've got lo live, currently ( if you saw the movie Transcendence with Johnny Depp maybe in the future who knows, but for now... )


Some people don't have great results in their lives because they don't feel well, they are from times to times sick, ( and me also some years not far away ago I was out of shape, out of balance and out of health, my life was mess up and then things got better, I don't have everything perfect now, but I'm still in the path of improving myself and now things are pretty good for me. I'm not here to write to you that I'm the perfect person that figure out everything, I just want to share with you what worked for me and maybe can work for you too like I mention in my previous post I would do it ) so you must have vitality in you so you can do it well, so take good care of yourself.


I know some people who feed their pets better than they feed themselves. They are so careful how they feed their pets, so careful what they eat, so careful so they get everything and because of that extreme care those pets are in great shape, but if you saw these persons I know. Some people take care better their pets than take care themselves or even worst some people feed better their pets than they feed their own kids.


So let's start with physical:


I was an addicted to caffeine, I used to drink 5 to 7 coffees a day with sugar of course, several cokes a day too and not the 0 or the Diet/light ones, I was addicted to champagne always an opportunity pop up "let's go people" and of course when I drank juices were always with gas and a lot of sugars. Now I simply drink water and occasionally natural juices of course without gas. I've always have water around me if I'm at home or practicing physical exercise like doing cycling and playing soccer, etc. Helps you hydrate because you are losing water all the time by transpiration, this is how you stay detox, you get the toxins out of your body, keep your energy level high, your blood pumping in and your brain thinking clearly.

I never ate several times a day, usually a small breakfast in running mode, no fruit at all and probably a chocolate cake. Why I did that? I thought by doing that I would start the day with getting extra energy because of the sugar of the cake or with the chocolate. I was wrong because we don't get more energy but we simple can create more energy with in our core body and the way we create that energy is by the nutrients that we put in our body. 

So I'm not a fanatic I don't eat perfect all the time I still drink coke from times to times ( and not the 0 and not the Diet/light ) or sometimes I enjoy going to McDonald's and eat the Big Mac, but for the most the time I eat healthy, I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, usually fruit in the morning before the lunch I eat orange, banana, pear and red apple. For lunch normally more vegetables to avoid the other stuff is not so healthy, after lunch before dinner in the middle of the afternoon cereals with soy milk because I have a lactose condition, for dinner I like very much having a good soup and salad and before go sleep a tea in fall/winter with some crackers and in spring/summer a fresh orange juice with an green apple.     

Of course I supplement my diet with some fantastic nutrition products ( by the way I think everybody should ) because the truth is, the food we buy today even if we buy from the bio store or we produce some of our own food we really don't receive all the nutrients we need in our diet that our body needs because of the air pollution, pesticides, hormones and a lot grown up in depleted soil, etc. 

There are many things that are happening that threat our food supply that is why I believe we all need supplementation. 

What I noticed was doing smaller meals, 4 a 5 per day and start eating the bad stuff early like for example as I mention above sometimes I like eat a Big Mac on McDonald's instead do that at dinner I go do that at lunch time early in the day not before I go to bed and I was able to starting losing weight and all with no stress, no craves and enjoying my new looking. 

But of course to go from 91 kg / 201 lb to 67 kg / 148 lb just changing the food I eat wasn't enough, then I began doing a lot a of physical exercises, I join a cycling team with family and friends, start going to a swimming pool with family, running in the woods with family and I started playing soccer in a local club this all combined with above allowed me have some interesting results.      

    

Why I began sharing what I did for changing my body?

Because you know how appearance is important in our society, you don't never have a second chance to make a first impression. Some people may say: "Well what matters is the inside of the person!" 

I agree with that, but don't forget only God can see the inside of the person, we humans only see the outside of the package. Of course with the time when people get to know you better they judge by more than they see but first they gonna take a look. Please make sure your outside is a major reflection of what's going on inside which lead us to the mind subject.

I began nourish my brain reading books, with audio programs that I listen in car or on my iPhone, I started seeing videos on my Mac, this allowed me put in thoughts of positivity and good expectations in my mind.

That also allowed to me to be the thinker of the thought instead just having thoughts by getting programmed by all outside influences, because I believe we born with free will and like Jean Paul Sartre said: "Man is condemned to be free", I really believe we can choose our thoughts. So I think it's very important think about what we are thinking about, so again I became the thinker of the thought instead just having thoughts programmed by TV, radio, internet, movies, social media, friends and family. 

  

I also made a freedom manifestation map, I filled in it with pictures and images of things I want to do, have and become and I put it in a place I can easily see it everyday this way I also feed my mind remembering me daily the direction I want my life goes.

If you found this post helpful, you know if you share this post with 5 of your facebook friends and ask them to each share this post with 5 of theirs facebook friends it would be 25 and if they duplicate that 125, and they duplicate that 625, and they duplicate that 3125, then 15625, and they duplicate that again 78125 and pretty soon the all world would be feeding well their body and mind.     ;-) But I'm leaving that up to you!

JM with friendship.

Evolution IV

Do you attend failure's workshop?

Failure should also do workshops!

       Usually people always study and follow up success, what people do to become successful.

Nowadays it's not spend  too much time looking what failures do.

So often people go to success workshops and they see successful people do workshops, and only a small percentage of people in attendance become successful from the workshop. Why this phenomenon happens? Because the big percentage in attendance never do what the speakers tell them, just putting simple like that.
Many in attendance listen and embrace it, put in their mental diary and accept it, just a few do it but everybody is available to do it.


In the sequence of the theme for today what about failures workshops? What if you have the opportunity to listen from somebody who never accomplish nothing in their life, told you what their habits were, all the opportunities they have and told you on a regular basis what they didn't do, wouldn't be of a great value that information?

Identifying the things that failures do is just as important at some period of time to listen to success.
Of course I believe you need more success principles than study and follow up of failures do. My definition of a failure is a permanent situation ( i.e. when you quit ), for example when you say: "That situation didn't work for me!", you fail to do what is required to succeed in this example, but if you don't quit, while your still in, having pulse, while your still have life in you and working to do well, then you're not a failure.  

So why people quit?
There are many reasons, lets explore some:

a) The necessity you have for the approval of other people.

The opinion of other people of you is more important than yours. Sometimes what happens to failures is like they don't feel so good about themselves that when they give themself advice the thought process they have is that they never trust it even if they have all the evidence, all the experience and all the information they still don't believe in themselves so they allow other people make the decisions for them.

b) Entertainment.

If you read the previous post I made on this blog I share there the difference between entertain yourself instead educate yourself, what I mean by that is most of us right now we're in entertaining ourselves, we will seat down and watch the idiot box ( TV ) 5 hours per day or more, every single day  but won't take 30 minutes to read a book or listen one audio program that is going to improve us and take us to where it is we gonna to go.

The reason why I'm writing to you in this type of writing is I want you to understand that your eyes, ears and mouth all that is being programmed as your navigation GPS device to where it is your going to go in life, what you intake, the information that you intake, those are the only places you can go, so if you intake negative tv news and gossip programs, when you intake this for so many hours a day, it becomes a part of who you are.

Now you might be thinking: "Well I agree with that you just written above but you forget I can control it!",  YOU CAN'T because that is your unconscious mind it works taking over by input, the more input you get the more operate.

You've got to learn how to disassociate with negative programming, how to improve yourself and educate yourself pop in an audio program, sit down and read a book, meditate and whatever it is you're doing you've got to feed yourself, feed your brain. Our brain is like a plant, if you don't feed your plants, your plants will die. Most people put more time in the feeding their plants then they do in the feeding of their future.



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Next post I gonna share with you the theme will be How to feed well your body and mind? ( I gonna share my personal secret sauce that allowed me in just 1 year changing my weight from 91kg / 201 lb to 67kg / 148 lb with no sacrifice, with happiness, a lot of joy and improved my health. )

So until we interact again as always, peace, love, faith, keep dreaming, stay alive, success and just Do Life! 

JM with friendship.